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money matters : july 28 |
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Being that today's the beginning of another heat wave in LA, I feel deliriously umotivated to write an entry. When the heat gets to you, you feel like doing nothing except trying to stay cool. In the next 4 days, there is a possibly of a Stage 3 warning from the electric company - which means possible blackouts. Plus, the temps may rise up to 107. Lordy! Napster has gotten a reprieve. That means it's still open for business for all your Nap-philes! At least until a higher source tells them to close up shop. Clara asked yesterday in her journal (7/27) about how married couples share their bank accounts and money in general. Since I'm relatively qualified to answer this question, I'll answer it to this extent...Sharing money between two people is something that could be very touchy or could be very simple depending on the people involved. I'm lucky in the sense that we make mutual decisions together before making sizable purchases and that we respect one another's spending without having to interrogate the other. Of course that is because we know the other one won't go out and buy a Rolex without consulting the other. (ahem..sorry F, had to use that example) But I'm the one who balances all the accounts..and I'm obsessive in that I need to get it as up to date as possible. K and I have a joint account but we also have separate checking accounts. It was that way before our marriage and it has stayed that way. We, of course know how much we each have in our accounts - we don't hide anything in that sense. We had a few more accounts in the past but closed them because they got too hard to keep track of. The simpler it is, the better. Of course if you and your mate are on two different planes financially, that makes it a lot harder to come to terms with in regards to your finances. Most couples end up bickering over finances more than any other thing. If one is frugal and the other likes to spend like a madman, then you both have to change your paradigm and come to a middle ground of sorts. Sure, I spend more than K does because simply, I'm a chick. This week alone, I bought a pair of shoes, a purse, makeup and clothes among other little purchases. He understands that this is something I don't do very often (once every 2 weeks or so..just kidding) and it's ok with him for me to be happy buying the things I like as long as I watch my finances. Paul must be pretty cool because his wife bought $1,500 French Doors this week and he was fine with it. I feel sexy tonight. I don't know why. I normally feel very disgusting. I try to refrain from talking about feeling sexy or looking sexy or anything like that because all you people out there will think I'm hot. And I'm not. In fact according to Josh's latest entry, I'm one of those girls with this so-called "substance". If you read it, you'll know what I mean. But tonight...maybe because of the heat...I feel like letting myself loose. One of those night where you drive around with no place to go. But just driving and listening to music in the car. I actually feel young tonight. I feel like 22 again. I feel like hitting the karaoke bar and drinking myself to oblivion like I once did. I don't drink much anymore. No reason to really except for the occasional beer at Japanese or Korean restaurants or perhaps a glass of wine when friends get together. I'm out. |
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